There are certain times of the year when being single can be especially tough. Long Bank Holiday weekends, Valentines Day, family holidays and key social occasions can often appear to be cosy twosome or family arrangements and in those times being single can feel especially lonely and unloved.
That the days and weeks post-Christmas and holidays are two of the busiest times of the year for divorce lawyers can do little to offer comfort or alleviate the loneliness and feel that we’re missing out on something special. Occasionally we can sigh and feel that we really don’t need to be single any more.
– Many men and women who don’t want to be single choose to join online dating sites and these can be an efficient method of finding someone with similar tastes and interests who fits our criteria. These sites often provide good practical advice when making their introductions. For instance, be careful how much personal information you disclose and restrict a first meeting to an hour so that neither individual feels trapped for an indefinite period of time. If you hit it off your date can last as long as you like.
– Stay safe. A growing number of people use these sites successfully, but it is still a great idea to tell a friend where you are going and maybe get them to call you after an hour to ensure that you’re okay.
– Accept if friends, colleagues or someone in your circle offers to introduce you to someone they know. The person may be a good match for you so why not agree to fulfill them. Even if nothing comes of it you have met someone new and done something different. Being able to mix and speak to new people is an important skill that can be quickly lost if we’re out of practice and haven’t dated for some time.
– Manage your expectations. It might be exciting if fireworks go off when we meet somebody for the first time, but do not invest all your hopes and dreams in a new relationship from the beginning. Having a pleasant couple hours over coffee, lunch or a walk can be a excellent way to initially meet somebody and may lead to you making a special new friend even if they don’t become a lover.
Be proactive and get on mailing lists for what’s happening locally. Then you can organise trips to shows, exhibitions and events. Join in when others do the exact same and encourage you to join them. Circulate regularly so you’re adding to your network of contacts whilst having a good social life and keeping in touch with what is happening around you.
Volunteering, joining a class, walking group or undertaking an activity you like keeps you occupied and lets you mix and meet with people who have similar interests to yourself. Enjoy meeting, sharing activities, becoming friends and slowly you may develop a loving relationship with someone you’ve already established a enjoyable connection with.
– Do not try too hard. Relax and be yourself. And remember that being single isn’t the end of the world! Many people in unhappy relationships no doubt envy you your freedom and ability to do whatever you want whenever you select.
Appreciate every stage of life and enjoy the opportunities that come your way. Single or partnered, each situation has its pros and cons. Being comfortable with yourself and your life takes the pressure off finding a new partner and frequently leads to a new relationship coming your way when you least expect it to.